GNM - Pain
Self-Devaluation Conflicts
HEADACHES
Headaches can actually occur in the healing phase of ANY conflict as the water goes to the head to heal that component (and everything has a brain component!)
More specifically though, a headache comes from something like:
’I’m not smart enough/clever enough’
’I can’t work this out’
’I made a mistake’
’My head is not good enough’
FACIAL PAIN
The specific flavour of the self-devaluation for facial pain is:
’Losing face’
’Humiliation’
’Shame’
’My face is not good enough’
JAW PAIN
Jaw pain comes from a SELF DEVALUATION (BITE) CONFLICT. I’m not good enough with a flavour of holding your tongue, not being able to bite back, or speak up, especially to someone seen as an authority. It can also be literal such as you were unable to bite or chew something.
Where have you held back what you needed to say? Maybe to your boss, or your parents? Perhaps you wanted to tear someone apart or crush in anger? Maybe you snapped at someone and wish that you didn’t.
Regularly I see this as a pattern - the DHS occurred in childhood perhaps with parents or a teacher, but then it continues to happen into adulthood, creating more self devaluation conflicts.
NECK PAIN
The self devaluation for neck pain can come from making a mistake, moral and ethical conflicts, unexpected injustice (‘That’s not fair’), criticism, not being able to turn or look at something.
There can also be a secondary conflict after experiencing the neck pain, of ‘My neck isn’t good enough/there is something wrong with my neck’ after seeing x-rays or a practitioner telling you that something is wrong with it.
SHOULDER PAIN
We do a lot with our arms so self devaluation for the shoulder could come from a few avenues.
A common area for shoulder is guilt within a relationship (I’ve let someone down). We hug and lean in with our shoulder so this may be why the association is here.
Also we carrying heavy things on our shoulders, or push things out of the way.
There can also be a secondary conflict after experiencing the shoulder pain, of ‘My shoulder isn’t good enough/there is something wrong with my shoulder/it’s not strong enough’ after having pain, or seeing x-rays or a practitioner telling you that something is wrong with it.
ELBOW/WRIST/HAND
The self-devaluation flavour for the elbow is to do with not being able to hold onto someone, or not able to push them away. It can also be a localised issue of the elbow not being good enough such as golf or tennis elbow.
The wrist, hand and fingers have more of a dexterity conflict - not being able to do something, or making a mistake with your hands - perhaps with a hobby, work or sport.
It could also be there if you were not able to hold something, or hold back.
LOW BACK PAIN
The low back is to do with support - it is holding you up. Perhaps not having the support that you needed, or giving too much support. Financial stress can show up here because we need money to support ourselves.
Often a secondary self devaluation will occur here when shown an x-ray with degeneration, or a practitioner giving a diagnosis. ‘My back is weak, it’s not good enough, I’ll always have back pain, My disc issue...’
HIP PAIN
We use our hips to carry a lot. The self-devaluation that presents in the hip is to do with carrying a heavy burden, too much on your plate, burden too big to carry, often deep secrets. It can also be feeling stuck and can’t move, can’t get out of the way. This is usually a ‘deep’ self-devaluation as it relates to the joint.
It may also be a localised hip devaluation - I missed a kick, wasn’t fast enough or strong enough.